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Agree with the PP that trundle beds can be a good solution (and are handy later for sleepovers when kids hit sleepover age).

But also--anti-hotel? Is that due to cost or just fussiness or "we want to be with you and the grandkids 24/7"? I would really ask DH (not YOU-- your DH, as their adult child) to talk to them about this. To be blunt, you need to do what works best for your family and not just accommodate what works for the in-laws, plus, what is the plan for when all your bedrooms are fully occupied by you and kids? Turfing kids out of bedrooms will work less as the kids get older and bigger and need their space.

I'd start establishing now that as long as you're in your current home, it's hotel time. But again, this is DH's job to manage. If they truly are on a limited budget, can you split the hotel cost with them or pay for it or say it's their Christmas gift etc.?

At some point it's going to become a problem for them to stay in your house, frankly, and maybe now is the time to start the new "tradition" of their staying at a hotel. Sell it to them along lines of how much the kids will love going to the hotel pool; how the in-laws will have their own space and sleep better (especially when there's a new baby crying etc.); how they surely don't want your DS to wait longer for his big boy room since he has done so well staying dry; etc. DH says all this to them, not you.

If they do the "But we've always stayed with you" "It's a tradition" thing, again, make it the new tradition. It will be forced on everyone anyway as the kids get older. 
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