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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't have the answer for you - I've always known I wanted a big family, so I'm pregnant with my second and we'll (almost) definitely have a third, maybe a fourth.

BUT - whether you decide to have a second or not, I think you really aught to work on the sleep thing. We started trying for #2 when the first was six months old (they'll be 19 months apart) and I felt great about it - but I can't even imagine starting to think about another kid if I wasn't getting enough sleep. Everything is harder when you're tired - parenting, making decisions, figuring out what you want. I think if you could get to a place where you were getting enough sleep, you'd have a lot more clarity - either you'd be like "yup, now that I am no longer exhausted, I'm up for a second" or "nope, now that I can see straight, I can see that one and done is the right path for us." Plus, as you noted, it's effecting your overall health and happiness.

So - what are your blockers? Your kid is two - is he not sleeping through the night? Is he up super early? Too much housework? Too many hours of paid work? Imbalance between parents (unlikely since you say you're BOTH exhausted)? A kid who can't play independently? These things can almost always been addressed - I'd honestly start there. Take a month or two and see if you can't figure out a way to both be getting 8 hours a night, or at least that much averaged throughout the week. [/quote]

I agree with this PP. You shouldn't have to be so tired with 1 kid. There's nothing wrong with stopping at one (I'm an only child myself!) but if this is the barrier, I would look at your lifestyle overall and see if there are changes that might be worth making.

We have two our jobs/hours help make it somewhat manageable.[/quote]

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