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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]On further reflection - I think I do have a tendency to offer unsolicited advice to not just this one person, but other close friends and family, usually ones who are younger.  It must be so annoying.  I can not seem to help myself.  How do I stop???  I just feel compelled to offer solutions.   And I'm not generous enough with encouragement and praise.  It's a bad habit, but how do I break it?[/quote]

Well you are self aware of a characteristic you want to change in yourself, and that is a great start.

Listen. Ask if your friend(s) want advice. Limit what you share in opinion since you’re clearly heavily influential. You’ll learn more and broaden your perspective listening, and also demonstrate that you test your friends to demonstrate their own empowerment in decision making. You can always affirm later.[/quote]

This is so helpful.  Yes, I need to trust them more.  I feel like I need an actual script as a replacement.  The compulsion to go in with advice is strong.[/quote]

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