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[quote=Anonymous]Op here. We went from bad to worse in the last four days, with my mother having a medical crisis unrelated to the cancer, and ending up in the hospital and ICU.

I have two siblings, both of whom have addiction problems. One of whom, when sober, would be hugely helpful during this time but apparently, she isn’t sober. And now she is with my mother, being of no help, and further complicating the situation for when my mother is released from the hospital tomorrow. The other sibling has never been an option for real support, and at this point my mother doesn’t want either of them around because they create too much stress. All of the dysfunction in my family, from which I have generally managed to keep a healthy distance, is rearing up for a perfect storm of stress.

So, i need to reframe my thinking and problem solve as if I were an only child. It is essentially the reality.  I’m actively pursuing many of your suggestions, including to find a geriatric care manager who can coordinate locally and work with me and my mom. And I am triaging home and work today so I can go spend several days trying to get things sorted out.

Also, the proverb about not setting myself on fire is incredibly apt and I am definitely keeping it in mind![/quote]

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