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[quote=Anonymous]We planned to have 3 kids when we were first married but at 2, it was a really lot for me. I hated my job and needed to step back from planning for another one. My husband was thrilled as 2 was a lot for him as well.

I was fine with it for a couple of years but then began to want another child. It took some time before I was in a stable (new) job and we could afford it and my husband was willing but not enthusiastic. We gave it a couple of months and then I pulled back on it as I wanted to get a different job and couldn't do that when pregnant.

A couple of years later, I was again in a good job and wanted to talk about another child but my husband wasn't interested. I tried to get over it but I just couldn't so we talked again and again and never really could get a firm decision until I asked him about adopting at some point. He felt like if I wanted another kid that he knew he would love enough to go through the rigamarole of adoption, then he wasnt going to be the thing that stopped us from having another kid. So we started trying in February 2020, LOL.

I wasn't pregnant yet when the world shut down the next month so we held off until my next birthday (late 30s/kissing 40 now) and decided to give it 4 months and then move on.

I am now 4 months pregnant and my older kids will be 6 and 8 when this one is born and all 4 of us are really excited. I have way better maternity leave then I had when I had my older two, our salaries are much higher, and I am in a much lower stress job.

Over the years, I gave away a lot of baby stuff, especially the big stuff like swings and glider, and are now getting neighborhood hand me downs on those things.

I tried to let go and though nothing was missing, it wasn't' what I wanted when I thought of our ideal family. We would be fine without this baby but we'll be fine with it as well.

In 7 months when I have an 8 week old that won't sleep, I'll be less fine but overall, we're pleased.[/quote]

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