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[quote=Anonymous]Posting this here because it's not really an infertility issue -- I'm more looking for advice from anyone who has struggled with the decision of whether to try for another baby, decided against it, and still struggled with baby fever. I think I'll get a broader range of responses here and I don't want to just hear from people who are on a fertility journey because I really believe our fertility journey is over and its' time to move. I'm just struggling with that transition.

I love our family as it is, I love our only child, and there are many really good reasons why it's time to stop. Age and money are the biggest ones, as well as some specific concerns about my health during pregnancy and going through PPD again. We talk about and plan for our lives as a family of 3 and I'm excited about it. I love each new stage that we experience with our daughter while also looking forward to the next. I feel so lucky to have this child at all. When I think about it critically, this feels like the right choice for all of us.

But I am struggling with letting go. I keep putting off some major decisions as though we are still on the fence about having another baby, even though we've discussed it and decided not to try again. I still think about being pregnant again. I still can't bring myself to give away our baby gear, and on some level I have not fully committed to being done having babies. And I'm doing all this knowing that even if we decided for sure we wanted another baby, our odds of conception would be incredibly slim. But the what ifs still plague me.

For anyone who has been in this situation and finally let go and embraced your family as is, how did it happen? Any words of wisdom for me?[/quote]

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