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[quote=Anonymous]I have one kid who is a crier. Super sensitive, has anxiety, and the waterworks just happens. You can tell when it’s fake and for attention and when it’s real, and op, it sounds like it’s real for your daughter. It’s definitely gotten better as mine has gotten older (early teen now) but it did take some work on their part and ours. Not sure your if your dd has anxiety, but I bet she does.

You can validate, hug, but don’t go overboard with the empathy/talking it all out. Sometimes kids just need to know we hear them and they can move on. Kid bullying them—yes they need a lot of attention. Didn’t get the bigger half of the last slice of cake? Don’t give a ton of attention. We also have had to push them past their comfort zone over the years due to the anxiety. And yes; that means MORE tears sometimes when they faced their worries/fears/discomforts head-on, but it built resilience and we can go back and remind them “hey remember when you were too scared to go on that big slide? And once you did it you loved it?” If you’re kid had a bad day at school don’t say “you’re fine!! What do you have to be sad about???!’ Because it does nothing to help them. Growing up and experiencing kid-related issues IS hard for them, even though it wouldn’t be for us.

One phrase I heard on a parenting podcast as “wow, that’s a bummer” said in an empathetic tone actually goes pretty far with my kids, even the sensitive one. It’s simple, but effective [/quote]

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