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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have one kid and are complaining to a working mom of four that it is hard for you to get out the door in the morning, you had it coming.

Know your audience.  [/quote]
That just goes back to who has it worse Olympics. These are all just vents we are not talking cancer or serious stuff and it wouldn't hurt for the mom of 4 to be sympathetic knowing not everyone is an organized superwoman like her![/quote]

It's also hard if the mom of four is your sister and she does this no matter what you do. Like even if you don't complain. If you observe or report on any aspect of parenting, she will jump in and explain how she's done that before and it was nothing compared to what she's dealing with now, or what it is with more kids, or whatever.

Honestly, a lot of parents with more than 2 kids are massive martyrs and want everyone to revel all the time about how hard they have it and how amazing they are for making it work. As though this is something that just happened to them and not a choice they made. That's what my sister is like. I think the real reason she's so condescending to me is that she is mad I don't ask her for more parenting advice. But the truth is, I don't ask her for parenting advice because I don't want to parent the way she does. She yells at her kids a lot and always seems really put-upon and miserable. I had fewer children and I had them older than she was when she started. We work to have a calm house where everyone's needs are met and there is really good communication. She can't offer guidance to me on that front.

I think it bothers her that I didn't do exactly what she did -- have a bunch of kids really young and then struggle financially for years and quit my career and make my kids my entire identity. When I did something else, it annoyed her and made her realize that there ARE other options and that having kids and a family does not need to be this miserable, chaotic, poverty-inducing experience. She's honestly just bitter.[/quote]

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