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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When the idea of "timeout" was suggested by psychologists in the 60s and maybe 70s, the idea was to offer the child a chance to remove himself or herself from an escalating situation or increasingly bad behavior before it got to the point of corporal punishment. It was an alternative, not the be-all, end-all.

That's how we used it for our kids (now tweens and teens). It was their chance to fix their behavior, a form of probation before judgment. If THEY were not willing to "comply" with timeout, we had no interest in forcing them. We simply moved on to the no-nonsense, methodical corporal punishment that they quickly learned they did not want to soon repeat.

If timeout is the ultimate option, then 1-2 minutes of looking at a wall is not going to be much of a deterrent for some kids. For others, it will be, of course, and those parents will say "I never had to spank! You're doing something wrong." Some kids are very sensitive merely to the hint of parental disapproval, but others, as you're finding out, are not much affected or deterred by that.

So you have to do what works for you. [/quote]

Interesting that you use psychology only when it works in your behavior. In the 2020s (and even before) spanking is not suggested by any mental health professional.

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OP- I really like Dr. Siggi on instagram. Definitely how to talk so little kids will listen is great as are lots of other books but I need stuff in snippets.

Also, explaining WHY isnt going to work in the moment. Also, you have too many animals in the home for a 3 year old. When you said dont chase the cats I thought one or two but you have 8. I get it but you need to separate them.

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