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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you actually planning to cut off all contact? Or just have different plans for one holiday? Not clear from what you wrote.[/quote]

Up until now, we've only seen her for those two holidays.  Mother's Day she came here, and Thanksgiving we went there.  My plan is that I will still visit her but without the kids, but she will not be invited here.  However, since I like to spend Thanksgiving with my kids, we'll need to find another time for me to visit. [/quote]

This seems a little delusional? You actually think your relationship/visits with your mother would remain unchanged if you cut her off from her grandkids?[/quote]

I think OP is well aware that the relationship will change. She's asking for advice on how best to approach the communication with her mom about this change going forward.

OP, based on what you know about your mother, are there specific holidays or times or year (her birthday?) that you think she would like to have a visit AND will work with your schedule to visit her? If so, I do think it's a good idea to not wait until November, but go ahead and speak with her and offer some suggestions for times you could visit. You should be prepared that she might ask about coming to visit the kids (or you bringing the kids with you) and you just need to rehearse in your head a calm matter-of-fact response that that is not an option.[/quote]

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