Reply to Am I a helicopter parent? How to relax with free roaming toddlers??

Forum Index » Infants, Toddlers, & Preschoolers

Reply to "Am I a helicopter parent? How to relax with free roaming toddlers??"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Sounds like a mix of a couple things. First of all, there's a big difference between almost three and four. At four, you will be able to relax a lot more. So don't dismiss that as "just a year older"

Second of all - a one year old who is still in the "everything I touch goes in my mouth" phase is super stressful out and about. That sounds normal.

Third of all - it does sound like [i]perhaps[/I] (hard to say definitively) you're tending toward helicopter a bit with your three year old. You're watching him, yes? He knows he's not supposed to go in the road? It's a quiet residential street? Lots of parents around? Then constant "stay off the road" reminders may not be necessary.

Generally though, what you're saying sounds normal.

My biggest advice - be very clear during these gatherings as to who is "in charge" of the kids, you or your husband. So, for example, you're planning to be there from 1-3ish? You're in charge from 1-2, he's in charge from 2-3. Or, if this is a common activity, alternate days. Have a brief hand-off convo at 2, and then purposefully turn your chair around away from your kids and focus on adult conversation. This does two things: 1) reins in helicopter tendencies (your husband would be find if you're not there, right?) and stops you from getting into a groove where he doesn't have to worry about the kids because you're ALWAYS worrying about the kids, which will just exacerbate the problem. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics