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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a lot of friends who do not have children. They pretty much didn't want to see us with kids very often (understandable) other than for one or two big events per year. During the babysitter years, it was no problem to see them on weekends. Unfortunately, kids' schedules make doing more that that as a couple really difficult for the middle years, so I saw my single girlfriends more than we were able to see our couples friends for a number of years, but even that was far less than they wanted to get together because they have much more time for themselves than we did. Text and email kept things connected. Once you have at least one kid driving, things start to open up again. Then when you are empty nesters you are back on the same time wave.

One thing that really helped maintain the connection during the years when we barely saw some of them (now that I reflect on it) was keeping annual traditions going, whether it is is going to the big game every year, or the annual July 4 party, or the annual holiday party, or your traditional 5K run, or whatever -- keep doing it as a through-thread of the relationship.[/quote]

OP here. I would like to establish that (the annual traditions). One of my friends has a 3 year old and I've barely seen her. She invited me to the birthday party last year (right before COVID hit). My husband and I went, it was at a kids place, and we were the only CF people there. I talked to her a bit but it just felt like we did not fit in not having a kid. She was overwhelmed, doing the party and seeing everyone. It was not enjoyable for us and we left early. So I think going forward we'll prioritize smaller hangouts or at least going to events where we'll know other people. [/quote]

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