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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Interested in hearing from a child free late 40s woman about what I did during this time to maintain the connection? [/quote]

100%. Yes. Sorry, I should have phrased the question differently! Definitely interested in experiences between all CF/ parents![/quote]

No problem! Just wanted to be sure I was not derailing.  For context, I just got home from "girls dinner" for the first time since September with a fantastic group of friends I have had since my mid 20s.

I am going to kind of bullet point some things, ask me any questions!

All of your friends will have different experiences. Some will have more time available, some will have less time.  Some will want a break from the kids (i.e talk about anything but) and some will want to bring the kids to lunch. Meet them on their own terms in that regard. Their life has just changed profoundly in ways beyond the logistics but the logistics have changed too. When my friends were first having kids, it was before texting was common place. We arranged a dinner out about annually, maybe twice a year by email for maybe 4 years? all of these years later we are at monthly dinner with annual trips. When the youngest kids were about 5 was when the pace kind of picked back up.  We're talk about all all kinds of things and share in challenges with aging parents, career challenges, and yes, their kids! It's wonderful to see them grow up.  Just know that it's likely that the intensity/frequency and length of communication and visits will change, but there is tremendous value in maintaining the connection. 
Also, an unexpected source of new friends for me during that time was empty nesters I have met through my hobbies. They have time to make friends, and lots of rich life experiences. [/quote]

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