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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The truth is, you have to talk to that colleague spreading the nasty rumors. I might even have another colleague or boss I'm close to be a part of the conversation so that it can't "go wrong" and lead to more rumors being spread. I would just say "I've been hearing rumors that you feel (insert term here) about me winning this award. I didn't mean to offend you in anyway and wanted you to know that."

Then hopefully the rumors will stop.

Is it just one co-worker or several that are the problem (s)? If its a group-wide thing then it may be worth talking to your boss about group morale and personal conduct.[/quote]

Thank you, PP, I appreciate this response. My boss is the person who confirmed this particular rumor to me in the first place. This isn't the only rumor about me, and, as I responded to another poster, I'm not by any means the only person who's the target of rumors. I agree, I should confront people with these rumors. Problem is, I'm very poised except when it comes to confrontation. Then I get visibly nervous, and I don't think that helps in resolving this kind of an issue. Maybe what I need to do is get some friends to help me rehearse possible scenarios beforehand, and then go ahead and confront?[/quote]

I find it interesting that your boss told you this. Are you close to any co-workers?

I disagree with the other poster that you should do nothing specifically because your boss is aware and it could affect his/her view of your performance if rumors continue to be an issue.

The key to stopping rumors is being friendly with your coworkers (lunch and such), but never talking about personal issues, being friends on Facebook, etc. In other words, don't give them fodder for rumors. When she told you she didn't get the award, just simply say "I'm sorry to hear that." If you simplify your speech (less is more) then maybe it would help too. Sometimes when you go overboard it will get misinterpreted.

Also, have you ever nominated a co-worker for an award or can you? Get other coworkers involved in nominating someone. Something like that could help people see another side to you. That you are willing to share the praise.[/quote]

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