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[quote=Anonymous]So a really good friend of mine recently told me of her plan to have kids. First reaction, I was so very excited for her! Then she elaborated about having one within a year, before doing residency. Not being familiar with residency other than our friends doing 12-hour shifts 6 days a week, I asked if she was able to figure out something more reasonable. She said no, but they would have plenty of help from family. Her husband also works 12 hour shifts and weekends.

I realized how insanely hard that would be on them and their baby, but didn't want to say it in front of other friends and really don't know how to verbalize that without coming off as a debbie-downer. I'm the first of our group to have kids, so I'm the only one that knows of the time demands. Is there a way to communicate what life might be like (i.e. seeing your child for 1 hour or less per day, total exhaustion, needing a maid, etc?) so that it might help her prepare or manage expectations?

I know she has dreamed of becoming a doctor and a mother, but I worry about her well being given that our childless friends are struggling to keep up with the demands of residency.[/quote]

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