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[quote=Anonymous]Can you work from home for a time? Being one room away from the nanny for a few months might calm your fears. I didn't have this level of fear, but we fell into this anyway because of the pandemic, and I'll tell you, I have 1000% confidence in our nanny having been nearby for six months. She's just so obviously fantastic, that leaving to go back to the office (soon!) isn't even making me a smidge nervous.

Additionally, are there specific things that you're concerned about? If I knew the nature of your fears, I might be able to give more specific advice. For me, my biggest concern was sleep training/hygiene. We had worked really hard to sleep train our baby and get him on a good schedule and I needed someone who would stick with that - but that's the kind of thing you can interview for, and leave specific instructions. So, maybe it's "Type A" but when I say baby needs to be put down for naps at 10:15am and 3pm, and to stick to our specific bedtime routine, I mean it, and we got a nanny who is more than happy to comply. Is it something like that? Or just general safety?

More broadly - I do think you're going to need to let go of some of your control tendencies. They're just not practical with a child. Even if you stayed home, eventually he'll go to kindergarten, or you'll go away for a weekend, and you need to learn to let go. Some therapy might help, you might have some PPA. Additionally - do you have a spouse/partner? How are you with letting go to him? That's a good "baby step" for lots of Type A moms, and it's CRUCIAL for your and your baby's well being. [/quote]

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