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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it’s a good friend who would be disappointed by your child’s absence, I would use it as a teaching opportunity and try to get my kid to participate. We sometimes have to do activities that we don’t enjoy to make our friends happy. (Only example that you gave where I wouldn’t is heights/a dislike that’s genuinely fear based. Not helpful to work through that in public for most kids.[/quote]

This is a good point and I do think you need to talk to your kid about specifically why they don't like the activity. For instance, it might seem obvious that a kid who is afraid of heights shouldn't be forced to go zip lining. But the swim party example is a good example of why you have to explore more. If my kid was just like "I think swimming is boring" I would encourage him to go and say if he doesn't want to swim he could sit on the side (he will probably realize this is much more boring and just go swim). But maybe the issue is feeling self-conscious about being in a swimsuit. Something like that can take you by surprise when kids start puberty and all of a sudden develop these issues even if they've never been self-conscious before.

That's why I think you need to be cautious about forcing a kid to do something they are resistant to, and start from the perspective of "You can do what you want but is there a way to make this more appealing to you?" Because you might learn a bit more about what is going on with your kid.[/quote]

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