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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Setting aside celebrities who have access to a lot of resources, in real life, one of the big factors I notice is women who had kids vs women who are didn't. Not always of course - there are plenty of amazingly put together moms in their 40s. But line up 5 of my coworkers without kids and 5 with... it is noticeable.

More time and money to put into taking care of themselves, their fashion, not having to prioritize kids needs, etc.

Now that I write that, not that different than celebs - more access to resources (celebs with kids just have more nannies, stylists, etc that childless women can do on their own). [/quote]

I think it really just depends on the age of the kids, how many you have, and what kind of support you have. I think the first two years after my DD was born I just looked haggard and lost. I was tired all the time but more than that, I also was just trying to figure out who I even was. Becoming a mom puts your life in a salad spinner, and that can include your sense of style.

But after that, I think I actually look better than I did pre-kids (I'm early 40s now). Becoming a mom made me start taking better care of myself in some ways. I eat better and exercise in a more disciplined way (I've always been active, but no exercise is essential to my sanity and also one of the few things I get to do on my own, so I'm religious about it now). And then I simplified by look a lot but also polished it up. I wear less makeup but I spend more on my hair because that's an easy way to get a lasting boost in my appearance and confidence with just a few hours at the salon every few months. Same with skincare -- I invest in good skincare so I can wake up and look great without having to pile on makeup. It's more efficient. I find clothes that look good on me and buy them in multiple colors so I don't have to worry about it.

My feeling is that you just can't evaluate a woman's style or appearance right after a baby. It's like trying to assess someone's appearance right after a divorce or job loss or the a major loss. I know that sounds crazy because people actually want kids, but that's the level of emotional and practical disruption in your life. It just takes some time to recover and get back to yourself.[/quote]

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