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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love this thread and I love all of you for giving voice to *exactly* what I feel about my in-laws. I like them, they are certainly nice people (wow, 22:00, that's an awful story - your poor sister!), but they are just not my kind of people. They are obese and they smoke, and they just aren't very active/healthy people, which drives me batty. For example: this past weekend we had my parents and in-laws visiting us, along with my brother and SIL (whom I adore) and their 18mo son (who is the same age as my daughter) -- remember how gorgeous the weather was? -- so of course we walked with the toddlers over to the neighborhood playground, and my ILs stayed home watching car racing on TV. Poor DH stayed with them so they didn't feel left out. This kind of thing happens all the time. I try not to let it bother me -- it's not like they're going out of their way to be rude, and in fact they are very polite people -- but of course it bothers me. I feel like such a snob when I'm around them, which sucks. And to the PP who said she's not sure she honestly loves her ILs -- I am right there with you.

I, too, would love to hear from others who have managed to go from tolerating their ILs to genuinely enjoying their company, or at least striking a happy medium...[/quote]

This is me, this is me, this is me.  (Except for the smoking part.) In-laws are truly nice people but we have so little in common, with every "lifestyle" issue you can think of. After 10 years of marriage, and a lot of bumps along the way, I have gotten to the point that I actually enjoy the company of some of them. But it's hard.  Here is my advice: Take them one-on-one, as much as possible. It's harder when you lump them into a group. Spend some time really talking to them. My MIL and I had a lovely, very meaningful chat this weekend about what her life was like growing up on a farm 65 years ago. It really was interesting. Try to engage them on slightly deeper subjects, if you dare to go there -- religion, politics, human dynamics. You may just discover some similarities you didn't know you had.[/quote]

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