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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP.  to 15:22

Yes, she turned over or pushed away.  And I have to say that rejection was particularly painful, literally would make my stomach burn.  I pretty much stopped trying after a few years.  
Yes, we fight about other things, but we would fight less if not for this issue.  Clearly, it shortened my temper and made me a less patient person.  I readily admit that.
I'm not perfect, but I help around the house and with the kids, when I can.  With commute included, I work 14 hours per day, so I cannot do as much as her (she stays home, but I've always acknowledged that in many ways her days were harder than mine).  Again, I totally get it that with kids, the house, financial pressure, etc. I could not expect her to always be ready to go.  But it got to the point of me asking don't you give  crp about me at all?  It wasn't painful for her, and the time we would do it she would eventually get into it.
Also, it's not like I let myself go.  Not saying I'm a Greek God, but I take care of myself, I'm in shape, I get noticed at work by younger women, etc.  So she didn't have that excuse.   
We did talk about it, although not a lot. I would feel guilty for bringing it up, but I would eventually have to.  Often, it was in the context of me losing my temper about something and her asking what was wrong.  I would then explain it.  
As for other who asked why wait this long?  Two reasons.  My youngest is 7, and I feel he is too young to have divorced parents.  I adore him and could not be away from him five days a week.  Also, finances.  I cannot maintain two households.
Truth be told, there is nothing I want more than her to totally regain her libido, get to the point where she wants it a lot, and for me to have the self control to be able to turn her down.  Unlikely it will happen, and, I could only turn her down if I had someone else on the side.  Sounds mean, I know, but I did say I'm bitter....[/quote]

15:22 here....thanx for your answers.

I can see the situation much better now.  And yes, I can see why you are bitter and resentful.  Given your answers, I got nothing of use for you but to offer my prayers for your happiness.  I hope you can find a way to make it work or not work that makes sense for you and your family.  Good luck, OP.[/quote]

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