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[quote=Anonymous]After years of almost no sex (maybe 5 times in a good year), my wife is finally having sex with me again on a somewhat regular basis.  This only came about after I told her I would leave her if our sex live did not change.  The sex is ok, not great, but it is better than nothing.  The thing is, I am still bitter about the ten years where we had almost no sex.  I can't forgive her for neglecting me for so long.  We would have a pattern: after a particularly long time of no sex I would tell her I could not take it, we would do it once or twice, and then it would repeat.  She would always say that she was still attracted to me, she knew something was wrong with her, and she was going to see somebody (a dr., a therapist, someone) .  But she would never follow through.

Is it unreasonable of me to still be angry about the decade of neglect?  I hardly expected it to be like when we were first together, and I would have settled for a few times a month.  But she apparently could never bring herself to care enough about me, or us, to do that.  Yes we had and have kids and that makes her tired, etc., but if you love someone and you know they are dying for something don't you throw them a bone every once in a while?  Maybe it is easy for me to say, but I think I could have risen to the task a few time s a month if things had been reversed.  I still have this very angry bitterness towards her, and I am still considering leaving her as I feel like it is too little too late.  I'm sure I'll get flamed for this on a variety of fronts, so bring it on.  Or, tell me I'm not crazy.  [/quote]

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