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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My eldest attended Indiana University and majored in marketing in the Kelley School of Business in 2017. She had a respectable GPA (I think somewhere in the 3.5 range) but she wasn't a standout, really, by any means. She had fun in college. She had paid internships going into her junior and senior years. She graduated and took a job in marketing at a large, F500 company based in Chicago. I think she started at $50k. Spent 3.5 years there climbing up the ranks and was at an associate product manager position (~$90k/year) when she decided she'd had enough of the cold and started looking for new jobs in San Diego and Austin -- had no problem finding one, recruiters were contacting her all the time anyway -- and now works for a large tech company in Austin in a fairly similar role as what she was doing in Chicago (which was not a tech company).

She has lots of friends and a good social life. Ended a long term relationship a few months ago with a guy she'd been dating since IU and is starting to get back out there. She volunteers. She is close with her family. She's fit and healthy and training for a half marathon.

She's happy. She's making enough money to pay for everything she needs (and a lot of what she wants) in the city of her choice. And this isn't some "well, your kid got lucky" -- all of her IU friends she still keeps in contact with are also gainfully employed in their fields of choice and enjoying 20s life (whatever that looks like for them). Is there more she could be getting out of life if she went to a more competitive school? I guess that's what just doesn't add up for me. When I think of how I wanted my kids to turn out when they were little...this is pretty much it. Soo I guess I ask, with all the obsession over getting into a top school -- what would be different if she went to say, Harvard? [/quote]

What’s the point of this? You don’t have a control kid. If she’d gotten into Harvard she’d presumably be more brilliant - let’s assume - and ambitious. So who knows? I wasn’t either of those things myself, I went to state schools and I now work with all people that went to Ivies at a law firm. But my husband went to an Ivy and an Ivy law school and he had many many more opportunities than I did. It’s an increase in options and exposure and network. For example he had friends high up at many tech and Silicon Valley places as well as partners at law firm and in finance so many client contacts, etc. these are the intangibles. So, again. Who knows. [/quote]

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