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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for the feedback. I will ask my MFM. My husband was quite upset when I firmly said no but feel like I should stand my ground. The last month of my last pregnancy was stressful and ended up developing preeclampsia at the end so really trying to take it easy. Which I understand sounds impractical when working in a high stress job and having another child to care for. We have a large home so my husband was frankly told me I was being selfish and a bad friend and it really hurt my feelings.[/quote]

"I see that you feel strongly about this. Can you tell me more? Why the risk of infection to our child doesn't outweigh being a good friend? Can you think of other ways to support your friends without hosting them? If they are renting their house, presumably they get rent, you know, money coming in, which they could use to get an airbnb.  Why is their choice to not vaccinate and to not line up housing should be more important than my choices and risks in the last month of pregnancy, when we both know I could get pre-eclampsia or either of us could get covid? They made their choices based on their circumstances, including accommodating the tenant to move in when they didn't have housing. Does risking our health and our children's health seem like a reasonable thing to sacrifice for friends' tenants' convenience? Tell me more about why you feel this way".

OP, put the ball in his court, probe and make him do the mental work of explaining it. Stay calm and stay your ground. "I don't feel that this situation merits risking my health and that of my children. I admire you for being a good considerate person and supportive friend. In this situation your family needs to be put first, it's tough to say no to friends, but I hope you do the right thing as husband and father."

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