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[quote=Anonymous]No.  You don't apologize for things you found out after the fact.  At the time you were struggling and complaining about your difficult birth, she had no included you in the group of people who she had shared her fertility issues with.  If she had wanted you to be aware, she could have let you know back then whether to tell you directly or to friend you on FB so you would have found out about it there.  But she didn't, so she didn't want your concern.  She was more concerned with being a good acquaintance to you.  In fact, it's quite possible that she purposely chose not to friend you earlier so that her fertility issues would not add extra stress or anxiety on you during your pregnancy, if you thought you had to tread carefully around the topic while around her.

What you do is that going forward, you be sensitive to her problems and what you say around her.  You might make things uncomfortable or awkward if you say something now about past events.  Just be conscientious and concerned going forward.  Offer sympathy and concern for events or discussions that happen from here on, but don't go back and try to make an issue of events that happened before you became aware of her problems.[/quote]

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