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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did it when my baby was 6 months.

Much easier than taking care of a grown man.  I can't imagine being a single mom of more than one though- that would be so hard.

I honestly think it depends on a few things: HOW you divorce (ours was very straight-forward, easy-peasy, no one out to get each other); if and who are working.

If you're avoiding divorce due to lifestyle change, forget the material stuff and think about your child's well-being.  I can promise you that they don't care about STUFF.  They will see the one parent resenting the other, even if you are silent.  They care about a stable home, and two parents that can show them how a healthy relationship works.  If you're avoiding divorce because it's "for the kids," you're kidding yourself, and most ppl know it but won't admit it.

I was quite embarrassed and scared when it happened, only bc my daughter was just six months- but now she won't have to go through the trauma of us fighting, telling her we are getting divorced.

I disagree that divorce is hard on the kids... depends on HOW you divorce.  Relationships sometimes don't work.  Relationships sometimes aren't healthy, and I would have NEVER ever wanted my daughter to succumb to what my ex did and think it was acceptable.  My sister and I were literally begging for my mom to leave my dad, at the end, we were so miserable.  Now that I'm a mom, it absolutely breaks my heart imagining my daughter begging me to leave their dad.

My ex and I are amicable enough that we show her and explain to her that we just have a different relationship than what we used to.  We can absolutely still be in the same room together (though, it is better if there are others around). [/quote]

I'll also add it depends on how much help you have.  You said you have small kids.  Do you have a good support system?  My DD is not in school yet and I work full time, but I have tons of amazing family and friends that pitch in.[/quote]

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