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[quote=Anonymous]I feel for you OP.  Both of my parents - my Mom about a year before she died and now my Dad -- although not so much frequently -- insisted on "going home" ....   sigh.  For us to insist that they are home (and they were/are) would only create an agitated argument.   What did work was to engage in a sort of round about not disagreeing conversation:

Dad:  I want to go home.
Me:  Ok.  Wow -- going to be a lot of packing.....
Dad: Oh
Me:  I guess you would have to change doctors.  oh boy -- Dr. Somebody is so good.  It's great he is your doctor.
Dad:  Oh

So you get the idea -- the point is not to argue.  Just agree and try to diffuse.   It worked with us..... mostly.   I remember my mother insisting I go get her suitcase and "tell your father we need to check out of this hotel to get home...."

It's like redirecting a toddler.   It's hard, I know.

I agree with getting a care manager.  We have the same one that worked with my Mother -- so my Dad really trusts her.

Good luck.[/quote]

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