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[quote=Anonymous]The thread on people in their 40s struck a tone. We're like that -- in our 40s, kids in elementary, and effectively sexless marriage... less than 10x per year. Everything else is fine -- we get along well, share duties at home, no financial troubles, in good health/shape, etc.  The few times we do have arguments, it's pretty much about sex. She'll initiate 1-2x per year. The rest of the time, I'll initiate and I get rejected at least half the time.

DW has said her libido is up only the week after her period, so that right off the bat limits us to 1 week per month, and then everything else has to be just right for it to happen -- right time of day, kids not home, fully showered, no headache, no chores to be done, etc etc. Her last reason for rejection was that I hadn't been romantic enough to her in the past few weeks.

Should I just declare this a sexless marriage and live with it, at least for now? My libido has gone down as I entered my 40s, so I'm guessing by our 50s I'll want it even less. What if I just don't ever initiate at all? I'm thinking I'll resent her less if I no longer have opportunities to be rejected, and there will be no tension of thinking if all the ducks are in a row such that she'll want to do it that day.

A friend of mine in his 40's got divorced a year ago, and said he's got a better relationship with his now ex-wife than when they were married -- no tension about sex.

I'm not interested in an affair, and I don't want to divorce because we're in all other aspects a great family unit and our kids don't need that trauma.

Am I crazy to be even thinking of this?[/quote]

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