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[quote=Anonymous]Thank you for the responses. It helps me to know I'm not alone!

It generally isn't a situation where I can leave. It's usually something like I need 2 hours to work on a project for work so we arrange for DH to take the kid out for a bit so I can get quiet time at home (I do the same for him when he needs to focus on work). I will try to just start my activity, but our home is small and what will happen is that DH will get distracted with some activity and my kid will just come find me and 3 year olds are REALLY good at preventing anything resembling work from happening.

He will usually compensate by staying out longer. But the real problem is that the 30+ minutes I spend trying to facilitate/force them out the door is incredibly draining and by the time they go, it is really hard to pivot to whatever I need to do. Like if he just left the house late but things were calm in the process, it would be fine. But because he's all over the place, our kid melts down, and it is total chaos and there is usually a ton of bribery involved to get them out the door. It's so draining.

When it's my turn, I have a kind of routine that maintains momentum and lots of little tricks to move things along ("Let's put our shoes on together!" "Can you pick out a book to look at in the car?" "What if you draw a map to the park while I pack our snack?"). And I stay on task. I can be out the door in 10 minutes. Not always a smooth or easy 10 minutes, but we're out of the house.

The ADHD comment might be on to something. I don't even know where to start with that though.[/quote]

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