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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, did he volunteer the lie or did you ask him? I can see asking once (maybe?) because he'd been honest before, but after the first time I would know the answer and thus not ask the question. Or do you mean lying in a different way? [/quote]

He volunteered the lie. Pretended he was reading when he’d been on video games.

Something about the way he said it made me suspect he was lying. I asked, at which point he lied and said he’s been on for 15 min playing games.

When I checked the usage info, he’s been on for almost an hour — when I thought he’d been reading.  I hate to have to tell him he can’t read on screen anymore (Amazon cloud reader), but it seems he can’t be trusted to do that. [/quote]

So this is the first and only time he's lied? I would try to problem solve with him. Why he didn't feel he could be honest, how you can remove that option (screen limiting app), etc. Punishing for lying usually leads to better liars-- and in this case it sounds like he's generally very honest and this is his first significant offense? You're not going to lose your honest kid, OP, if you handle this reasonably. [/quote]

No, th is not is first significant offense.

He has been lying about screen time for a couple months. We reduced available screen time each time he lied before, so he’s had consequences previously.

He knows we can track his screen activity, but still lies about it. It’s like he can’t help himself.

He had screen time taken away last week for lying, just got back to his regular allowance of time this weekend, then lied and went over it again.

I think we are just going to have to take away his computer for a extended period of time, but I am saddened that all we’ve taught him about trust and honesty seems to go out the window when video games are involved. [/quote]

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