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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks.  I really really do not give unsolicited advice.  The closest I ever come is the example I gave.  And at this point when my brother asks me advice I usually tell him that he should talk to his wife instead.  And I am well aware of the clutter factor so I try to send things that are small or consumable (like bath bombs for nephew) and I always include in my note that anything they don’t find useful they can just donate.

Honestly I kind of feel like “why can’t you just lie to me?”  If I send a gift you hate, why not just say thank you and quietly donate it instead of going out of your way to tell me “Yeah, I have been wanting one of these from X brand but Y brand will do for now, I guess.”[/quote]

Well that’s just rude.   Agree with others that you have to accept that she’s not a gift person.   At this stage gifts are really for the parents, not the kid.  As he gets older it will be easier.  And then he’ll get older and age out of toys and it gets hard again!

Some moms are prickly about advice.  I know it seems like just a conversation from your perspective, but from the mom side it often comes across as “you should do this, you should do that” and rubs people the wrong way.   I get that it stings from your perspective, but I would just step back a bit and wait it out.  Things will be easier as your nephew grows up a bit more and you can have a more independent relationship with him.   [/quote]

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