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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone have tips on how to stay an interesting person to know, rather than slipping into becoming a mom who only talks about the kid(s)?

I have 1 daughter, toddler age. Sometimes it's hard for me to find stuff to talk about with people that isn't kid-related. I think it's mostly covid - travel and overseas living was a huge part of my life and identity before and i often talked about that. I also had a bigger group of friends before and had larger gatherings, which make it easier to let others lead the conversation.

Once I'm sucked into parenting conversations with other parents about kid minutiae, it feels rude to change the subject. There's always work, but I work in a field people don't find intriguing and I don't want to fall into the workaholic DC stereotype. I am a younger mom (late 20s) and most of my same age friends don't have kids. So I'm very eager to keep an identity separate from motherhood. I have many hobbies, but I don't want to bore people with those, either.

[b]I guess I'm sensitive to this because I'd like to fancy myself a modern, dynamic woman who's still sexy and interesting, and my own mom was very absorbed in motherhood in a way that turned me off the idea at first. [/b]

Tips?
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My tip would be to work on your issues around this. Kierkegaard used to say that he would much rather talk with an old woman retelling family gossip at a party than anyone who considered themselves to be remarkably interesting, and I think there's something to that.

Many women in this day and age struggle with the shift of identity that comes with motherhood, regardless of whether they work or stay at home. But you don't have to be having great adventures out in the world to be interesting. Interesting is about how interested you are in others and in life.

Signed, mom who used to travel all over in remote areas and doesn't feel less interesting now[/quote]

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