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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry you, your DD, and your DH have to deal with that. BIL's behavior is immature and trashy. I would be pissed as hell, but there isn't much you can you do. I hope the week goes by quickly. Is the weather good where you are and can you try and do outdoor activities to get away?

How often is he playing video games? Is it hours on end? What a loser.
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Oh come on. If BIL was on the basketball court hollering and trash talking you wouldn't call him a loser, would you? Video gamers engage in the exact same behavior, and like to do it at the same volume. I know this because I have a 14 year old who plays pick up basketball and video games, and he treats them both the same. Since video games are INSIDE I do remind him that he is sharing his space with the rest of us and to turn it down. He always does, but he does go back to full volume when he gets really excited. I don't like it, I wish boys and men didn't engage in trash talk, but they do. None of that helps OP at all, but it might help to begin with the premise that this young man is not doing anything inherently wrong. He is in his own home and doing what clearly his parents allow him to do in his own home. It is analogous to families where someone leaves the TV on all the time - it is really annoying to people who don't do that, and can seem really rude. But some families like it.[/quote]

It’s completely different to do it when it’s audible to a toddler, though! I also don’t ha e a problem with teens trash/talking while they play but if my 14 year old did that so his young cousin  could here that would be entirely different. And op’s bil is 7 years older!

Someone (op’s husband or in-laws) should say to him clearly “Larla can here you and it’s scaring her so please keep it down”  if that’s the case. I do think there’s a little bit of sexism in how readily people excuse a grown man’s behavior. Can you imagine excusing a twenty something woman who was shouting and cursing at a movie so a  toddler could hear? It would be completely bizarre! [/quote]

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