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[quote=Anonymous]I'm dealing with this myself with my kids (especially oldest girl, 8 1/2). I love the book Mindset (Carol Dweck), which talks about the importance of praising effort, rather than results. My husband thought I was crazy when I told him it was a bad idea to tell our daughter she was "smart," because that can feed into the perfectionist thinking and, paradoxically, cause children to try less hard when the going gets tough. (I'm either smart or I'm not, so if this doesn't come easily to me, that means I'm not smart at it and I should quit and do something else). Instead, praise effort and perserverence (I can see you worked hard on this). A lot of books have echoed/repeated Dweck's findings.[/quote]
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