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[quote=Anonymous]OP you can’t control how your friend feels. If her comments make you uncomfortable, you can choose to talk to her less or share less of your good news with her. If you were very close friends, I’d suggest talking to her directly about it and just being honest, and see if she can talk about why she is responding the way she is. But the way you talk about it, I don’t get the sense that you care that much why she us doing this, just that you don’t like it.

I will note that you read this as jealousy but it may be more complex than that. To say it’s just jealousy is a simple explanation that probably makes you feel good, because it makes these uncomfortable interactions her “fault” while also making you a person worthy of jealousy. But most of the time, it’s more complicated. You may not realize how much you are talking about yourself in conversation. Or perhaps your friend is dealing with something difficult and feels you aren’t listening. Maybe she has pandemic fatigue and resents that you seem to have none. There’s a lot of nuance that is missing from your description. “She’s just jealous” is something women say about other women when they don’t want to dig deeper. It’s self-aggrandizing and exculpating. But it’s almost never the whole story. If you are really friends, and really care about each other, I would dig a lot deeper.[/quote]

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