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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I've been thin my entire life. It is my natural body state. I am thin when I eat healthy and exercise, and I am thin when I don't.

My whole life, people have commented on my weight. Sometimes people assume positive things about me because of my weight. They often figure I'm very diligent about exercise or that I'm very fit. That's actually true now but hasn't always been true. People also assume I eat well (this has never really been true). I really see fat phobia in the way people talk to me about my weight sometimes, the way they assume I have good self-control because they assume my weight is the result of effort. It's not.

But people have also said lots of nasty things about my body. Sometimes people tell me I'm too thin, that I look unwell, that I need to gain weight. Other times, people just tell me they don't like me because I'm thin, or that they are mad at me for being thin or for wearing clothes that make it clear that I am thin.

Here's the thing about all of it: it has nothing to do with me. At all. The compliments don't have anything to do with me and the insults don't either. It's all about the person saying it, what they want, what they think of their body and other people's bodies. What they think about food and exercise. What they think health is and isn't. Sometimes it's about their feelings about me, but that's still not my business.

You have to learn to let it go. It sucks to have people be unkind to you because of your body. Everyone experiences this. Fat women (actually fat women, not "I just need to lose 15 pounds" or just average weight women) experience the worst of it -- our society is cruel to fat people on a level that I'll never experience. Being denied medical care, being treated as unworthy of love, being denied or pushed out of jobs, all because of something that people truly have very little control over. Be grateful that you don't experience that and try to be kind to others. They are just doing their best. They shouldn't take out their unhappiness on you, but if they do, know it's not about you. Let it go.[/quote]

Amen[/quote]

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