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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How are you communicating/ reaching out? You might want to send home a hand-written note asking them to call you.

My parents are immigrants and I wasn’t allowed to go to peoples houses where my parents didn’t know the other kids parents. I don’t know if anyone ever reached out to my parents or not, but I never played with friends from school outside of school in early elementary, only neighborhood kids (probably for that reason). My parents just didn’t fee comfortable dropping me at someone’s house who they didn’t know. [/quote]

Surprisingly I actually did this with a friend of my daughter's when we wanted to invite her to a birthday party because the family didn't have any info listed in the school directory. The mother responded the next day with her email address and she and her daughter attended the party. We didn't become friends or anything, but she was very sweet and nervous, I think.  I understand this - I grew up the child of immigrants and my mom was very nervous around my friends' parents when I was young because she felt her English wasn't good enough, she didn't think she was smart enough, etc. -- none of those things are true and she did gain confidence as I got older to the point of tutoring math at my elementary when my youngest sibling was in school. Be patient and be kind. Personal touches like a note or inviting the family instead of just the child would help a lot (like PP I wasn't allowed to go over to someone's house that my parents didn't know until I was a little older - this was just a trust and comfort-level thing).[/quote]

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