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[quote=Anonymous]Overstepping?

As in...running to the internet with the problems directly experienced by a different, grown person?

If your husband wanted to shut that shit down and cease to indulge her, he could. He's grown. He CHOOSES not to.

You have every right to tell him that hearing about all this drama and nonsense upsets you, and please stop telling you about her incessant calls or unreasonable demands. You have every right to set that boundary.

What you don't have a right to do is take it to the streets to try to ask Internet strangers to...diagnose your SIL? "What explains this kind of behavior?" Well, not many of us are psychologists, but...

...as the relative of an alcoholic, having someone you love be an addict is very anxiety-producing. You want to fix it. You want someone else to fix it because you can't. You feel worry and anxiety and hopelessness, and you want your loved ones to help fix it.

It might be helpful to see if your husband would be comfortable suggesting Al-Anon or another support group for relatives of addicts to his sister. Suggest that to him, ONCE then drop it.

YOU need to drop it. If your husband chooses to engage in this drama, that is his choice. You can only control how much you listen to it. And stay off the internet about it. [/quote]

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