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[quote=Anonymous]I agree that if you do go to the wedding and celebrate your child's birthday the next weekend, he will not know the difference.  And this is an out-of-the-ordinary experience--it's not like you are trying to have a girls weekend that you could do any other time.

Having said that, if the wedding is going to be a logistical nightmare and cost you way more than you can afford, I don't think you should feel guilty not going.  I know she's your best friend but she is choosing to get married in another country so she has to realize that a lot of people just won't be able to make it.  And you have two good excuses--that you have a toddler and that its his birthday.  I think she will understand.

I actually had a similar situation earlier this year.  My best friend had just moved to California with her boyfriend who is in the Navy.  They were planning on something a bit more formal here on the East Coast in the summer but he was being deployed on short notice in April so they wanted to just go ahead and do something quickly out there to make it official before he left.  They still had a celebration--it was more than a courthouse wedding--mostly to make the MIL happy so it was mostly family who went out there and a few of his friends.

At the same time, DD was 4 months old and still breastfeeding.  And I had just returned from maternity leave a week or two before the wedding so I didn't really have leave to take.  Plus, my boss had an out of town wedding that same weekend so she was already planning to take off for that.  Needless to say, add all of this to the fact that we would have been dealing with last minute fares and I didn't go.  I still feel bad about it but she doesn't seem to care and it hasn't affected anything between us.  She totally understood and I think your friend will too.

Do what's best for you and don't feel guilty no matter what.  It's a one-time thing. [/quote]

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