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[quote=Anonymous]Hi everyone, I'd really appreciate any advice as I'm having a hard time making a decision. I decided to hire a doula team in the fall because I was anxious about labor - going into labor, deciding when to go to the hospital, etc. The service has admittedly been pretty bare bones (other than some great classes they have offered), but I don't feel like I developed the personal relationship I would have hoped, and the few times I have had to come to them, I have sort of felt like they've questioned many things my doctor has said, which has caused my anxiety to actually heighten, rather than feel better. I trust my doctor and it's made me feel a little more overwhelmed than I would have felt otherwise.

I'm 34 weeks pregnant now, almost 35. My blood pressure has recently heightened and it looks like I'm going to need to be induced for an early deliver in 2.5 weeks even if it just stays where it is currently (if it raises again, I'll have to deliver immediately). I haven't scheduled my birth plan meeting with my doulas (which is usually at 36 weeks) and per the contract, it looks as though I can break it before week 36. Given that it seems I likely have to be induced, I'm not sure I feel like I need them in the way I thought I may need them at one point, since my birth will essentially be scheduled. The questioning of my doctors' medical opinion has kind of rubbed me the wrong way as well, and while I already deal with anxiety, I also don't want to be in a situation where I am further questioning the doctor's interventions when high blood pressure is already a risky thing.

I guess my point is, I hired the doulas to help alleviate anxiety, and now I'm questioning if they may cause more when I really just need to be hearing one voice right now. Should I cancel the contract? Or will I wish I had their support? I also feel like I've gained a better understanding of how supportive nurses can be, etc. in the delivery room as well. My husband will be there, as well, but he admittedly is kind of clueless about everything related to birth.[/quote]

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