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[quote=Anonymous]I am Asian, but I am definitely not a tiger mom. I am not from here, but I notice that no one (coworkers, neighbors or friends) talk about anything negative about their own kids at all. I have been here in America for 20 years. My kids are in elementary school. It seems like I am the only one sometimes nagging about my kids are naughty, and wish they are more behaved, willing to participate in sports, and etc.. I don’t talk about my kids at all until they bring this topic up, and I would start with some positive things and then then mention something that I wish and I hope for improvements etc when they ask me how’s my kids doing? Then, I would ask them how their kids are doing, all they mention are all good and positive things, e.g., they mention that they does so well in what sports and academic, get some awards, make some good friendship etc.... no single bad or negative or things that need to work on at all. I have met a parent before that they are offended if anyone says anything “bad” or “ negative” about their only child. They defend their child right away verbally. One time, I mention that her child is shy, she gives me a list of reasons her child is not shy at all in my face with some attitude.....and since then, I shut my mouth up.

I am confused if I am the only odd parent or all other parents have perfect kids? Or just parents are supposed to talk about good and positive things of their kids for pride, protection, or to build up kid confidence? Positive parenting approach? I do mixed parenting approach to my kids, sometimes positive encouragement to build up their confidence, and sometimes tell them which area are their weakness which we need to work on etc..

I know that this forum have many parents express their concerns & worries because it is anonymous. But in real life, do you also talk about your kids among friends, coworkers, neighbors etc at all? [/quote]

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