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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We only have one child, and the way DH plays with him is that he just lies there with his eyes closed. DS is playing with trucks so DH will just lie there on the floor and let DS drive his trucks over his back. Taking DS to the park involves DH lyingon a slide with his eyes closed. DS is 5 and draws family portraits with DH napping. DH doesn't have any pressing medical issues. He is medicated for anxiety and depression. But is otherwise healthy. he sees me, but [b]mostly he's just a lump.[/b] Obviously we're not going to have any more kids. Does anyone else have this challenge and what can be done about it? Or is this just the way it is.[/quote] OP Im sorry this is hard on you, I really am, because I have been there. So, where is the compassion? Depression and anxiety are pretty serious and if its serious enough that it required medication then it seems there are two problems. His issues and the effect they have on you and the kids. If the issues he has make him this way, then the only thing you can do is level set your expectations or get other help or, once the pandemic is over, find friends for your kids so they can get play time and attention and let DH take over tasks that don't require a ton of energy. Playing with a young child is intense. What does DH have to say about any of this? Where are his thoughts about this? I was just thinking that the lack of compassion in your post might be more than just your own weariness of the situation. Does he talk about how bad he feels about this, or is he just so completely out of it that he cant engage that level of communication about the state he is in? Finally: HOW LONG has he been on the meds? [/quote] DH has ASD so he thinks it's fine/great. He considers napping in the room while DS plays spending quality time together. He's been medicated for 2 years, right another the time of ASD diagnosis. If it seems I don't have compassion, it's because I'm emotionally tapped out.[/quote]
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