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[quote=Anonymous]Son visits his dad once a week  - I bring him over around noon, dad brings him back around 7-8 pm. I feed him lunch before we go so he eats around 11-11:30, and then he doesn't eat dinner at dad's. Dad usually offers to get takeout, but I think he would be open to cooking (he used to, when he lived elsewhere and there was a grocery store close by), or ordering in. I am not sure what the dynamics of this is. Dad says he asks son if he is hungry, kid says no, and so they don't eat. I think our son just doesn't want to interrupt his videogames or maybe he is feeling a bit shy around dad or is too lazy to walk?
Anyway, this just bothers me, mostly because I end up being responsible for dinner on my only child-free night. But also I am worried that the kid goes hungry. 
I started giving him a bento box of fruit/veggie and nut snacks, in hopes he becomes hungry and eats healthy food and then has dinner at home, but he doesn't eat much of that either, and I end up feeding my ex, which is ok but not my goal. 
I just want to break this weird dynamic and looking for ideas. I tried to reason with dad saying I don't want to be responsible for dinner but he acts obtuse and says he offers but kid doesn't want to eat.
I tried to reason with our son, saying he should just say yes when dad asks when he is hungry - kid promises to do so but never does.
Honestly my ex does so little in the way of childcare that one dinner a week doesn't sound too much, and he can't even do that, and it annoys me to no end. Also sometimes the kid is there overnight, I was planning to increase the number of overnights, and now this?
Thank you for any insights and ideas. 
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