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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a college age daughter now.  Sometime in late middle school or early high school, she asked us something about sex and it was like someone told me it didn’t feel good.  My husband valiantly waded in with explanations about what boys are thinking about.  And I followed up by saying basically, sex is *always* for you too.  If it hurts, stop and figure out why.  If your partner doesn’t care that sex feels good to you, stop having sex with them, that won’t change. If you don’t want to do something that someone really likes or wants you don’t ever have to, but they also don’t have to do something you really like if they don’t want to (I did get a like what question here - so I responded with oral or anal sex).  I went on for a while and I closed with, “just remember when the time is right for you to have sex, it is *ALWAYS* for you too.”

We were in a restaurant and two women at a nearby table clapped.  [/quote]

Leave it to DCUM to take something good and make nasty comments about it.  (See PPs above this).  I think that was well done, and I'm clapping very belatedly.  This is pretty close to the same conversation I had with my sons, plus the insertion of a few things like "oral sex goes both ways, can't expect to receive what you don't give" and all the usual about no means no and boundaries, etc.

Also not to be in a rush in any relationship, because you can't unwind.  Take your time. He's a college junior and still tends to follow the advice.  (As far as he seems to be telling me, which seems to be a lot).[/quote]

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