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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to get comfortable saying no. Stop making it personal. Just say, I wish I could help, I just don't have the bandwidth. You do creative work - it's still work.[/quote] I know!! That’s why I liked the posters in the other thread saying that Op needed to respect her friend’s boundaries even if she didn’t understand them. How do you get better at saying no? Partly it’s a fear of outcomes like exactly the one in the other thread—that if you say no to the favor the other person will take it as a rejection/sign you don’t feel the same degree of closeness and withdraw their own kindnesses. This is where I feel like socialization has really screwed women. We’ve been socialized to be so agreeable that we sometimes interpret healthy boundaries as being dismissal/lack of reciprocity etc. Is this partly bc we say yes so often when we’d rather say no that we’re resentful when others don’t over extend themselves in the same ways?[/quote]
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