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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Husband here.  I do bedtime three nights a week. My wife does three. One is joint (Friday night pizza night.)

When I do bedtime, I do it.  Handle all the kids.  Brush teeth. Read books.  Take responsibility for kids going down and staying in room.

When wife does bedtime, I regularly get asked to stop what I'm doing (usually working, this is part of my scheduled work time) to brush teeth or find stuffed animals or otherwise help out.  Often wife gets frustrated with kids.  Some nights she is so frustrated that I have to take over.

This isn't hard. I take responsibility for what I have to do.  Why can't my wife take the same responsibility, and do so cheerfully without getting mad at me or kids?

(Yes we divide up responsibilities evenly. Kids. Cooking. Weekends. Cleaning.  It's a good marriage.)

Husbands, what do you do in circumstances like this? [/quote]

Does she give herself time to collect herself before starting bedtime? Does she seem more stressed generally these days? Is she depressed? Are they taking advantage of extra chances she gives them? Does she have a consistent routine? Are there consequences for not following the routine?

It sounds like you have established a solid routine that works.  The kids know exactly what to expect and do it consistently.  Are you willing to carve out time during one of her three days to listen in and see/hear what is happening? You need to be on the same page.  We both have routines, but they are a little different.  We do try to have the time the start of the bedtime routine (shower, books, lights out) around the same time.  We try to limit calling for backup for only cases where one of us has lost all patience.  Asking for help with brushing teeth or other basis things wouldn't qualify...[/quote]

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