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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can see that you are very anxious about this, but it is really not something to worry about.  Male friendships are very activity-based.  As he gets older, he will become friends with boys that he has common activity interests with - whether that is soccer, Minecraft, D&D, scouting.  It's not as deep as you are making it out to be.  If a boy has sufficient social skills to interact reasonably well with other boys at the shared activity, he will 100 percent have friends.  [/quote]

OP: My DD is like your DD. Has had roughly the same group of friends since early elementary (is in middle school now). There are changes year to year as other girls join, some drop off a bit, girls flow in and out,  but they are largely still friends. Same best friend since 1st grade. The girls have different interests and have had been in different classes over the years, yet the friendships remain. DD is happy.

My sons are completely different. One is in 4th and one is in 6th. Their friends are more activity based and situational so far. They hang out with kids with like interests- their friends are from sports, kids who like the same video games etc, and kids they play with at recess. As interests have changed (and depending who is in their class in a given school year), their friends change quite a bit year to year. They are happy.

Messed that up--OP here--you describe my daughter and her friends group to a tee. Maybe since I went through this first with her, I'm realizing that boys make friends differently. It does seem more activity based and based on their interests. I didn't really look at this way until you and other posters mentioned this about boys and that unlike my DD he doesn't even need that tight group like what she happened to fall into starting in K and boys are okay just gravitating to who will talk to them about the latest Mario game, so he'll be fine as we eventually move into a post-COVID social era (hopefully one day).

OP here--you describe my daughter and her friends group to a tee. Maybe since I went through this first with her, I'm realizing that boys make friends differently. It does seem more activity based and based on their interests.  I didn't really look at this way until you and other posters mentioned this about boys and that unlike my DD he doesn't even need that tight group like what she happened to fall into starting in K and boys are okay just gravitating to who will talk to them about the latest Mario game, so he'll be fine as we eventually move into a post-COVID social era (hopefully one day).

Neither of my boys had specific friends when they were 6. It was mostly occasional play dates I arranged (because I was friends with other moms), being with kids at sports activities like tball, and parties tended to be whole class. They were social and had fun but I can’t say they had specific friends of their own. Both have continued to be happy and social, with occasional bumps along the way. I would not worry about your DS. [/quote][/quote][/quote]

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