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[quote=Anonymous]This was us about a year ago. I can't speak to anyone else's experiences, but we decided to "wait" knowing that choice could mean not having a second. I'm glad we did, and now we have a delightful three year old and feel much more confident in staying a family of three. All the things people are talking about on the thread -- meals at nicer restaurants, relaxing weekend mornings reading, laid back travel, etc., is all within sight for us with our current kid. The thought of adding an infant to the mix and restarting that clock doesn't sound appealing to me at all right now, even though I still definitely get baby pangs when I see my friends' new babies.

I think two kids can be great for low energy parents, too, especially as they get older and can entertain each other while you step back a bit. But one thing I've seen from friends is that this doesn't happen for quite a while so you have to be willing to put in the effort to make it happen. Eventually they will play together, but there is a long transition period, and for very young children, being even just a year apart (much less 2 or 3) is going to limit how much they really interact. Doesn't mean they won't -- my friends' kids can be so sweet with younger siblings -- but it's not this effortless transition.

I think we just realized that while that's a worthwhile endeavor, it's not for us. I'm also just very into my one kid and really enjoying investing energy in her as she develops interests and hobbies. I can foresee a lovely future for the three of us and I don't feel like anything is missing from our lives. If anything, I'm relieved that we didn't pull the trigger last year when we were talking about having a second. The choice gets easier and feels more right with each passing day, and I can't wait until a couple years from now when we can take our then-five-year-old on adventures that would be impossible, or at least a lot less fun, with a toddler in tow.[/quote]

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