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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Discord can be rough. My son (same age) has mentioned occasional nasty things like you mention, but he blocks and disengages, or so he says. Do you know what happened that he was ganged up on like that? Did he play poorly and people started attacking him in chat like that? Regardless it isn't his fault, of course - just that it would be helpful to understand with him whether this was a one-time occurance where some obnoxious trolls were in a game and got their jollies being jerks, or whether your son is experiencing this frequently. If it was one time, talk about a better approach next time and let it go, then ask in a few weeks whether its happened again and how he responded. If it is on the regular...he may need to stop using Discord for a bit.[/quote]

He said it started out they were joking and then quickly spiraled nastier and nastier, I'm sorry your son had to go through this too, did your son respond by just ignoring them, because that's something that my son has a hard time doing. He takes all the insults at face value, which is something that he needs to just let go.[/quote]

I'm sorry your son was upset, and that it got under his skin. It sounds like it was a one time incident, rather than a regular thing? If so I'd just keep coaching him. My son just isn't really reactive that way - he laughs it off, or just moves on. He plays a game called Rocketleague (video game car soccer. Don't ask me!) that he is good at. When he wins sometimes people are very nasty in the chat and call him names because they are mad they lost. He'll occasionally respond, but usually just says something slightly mocking "so sorry your feelings were hurt" and closes the chat. The internet really can be nasty. But at our boys' age we really need to teach them how to navigate it, rather than preventing them from engaging with it, because really soon we won't be able to protect them any more. We need to give them the tools to protect themselves. All the best to you both![/quote]

Your son sounds like a great kid! I told mine to just ignore and tell himself that they don't know about him as a person and are just trying to bother him. I feel as if ignoring the nasty things being said is the best for your mental health. I couldn't agree more with what you're saying though, the internet isn't going anywhere so we have to teach them how to use it safely. [/quote]

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