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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - My HS kids haven't shown any anxiety, but I have it and it runs in our family. I strongly suggest that she does CBT. It is very helpful in learning to control your thinking, and therefore regain the feeling of control/power. I have suggested on this site before, but the Life Coach School podcast is a based on that method, and she talks about having anxiety. She brings in $10m+ every year, so it might be worthwhile for your DD to see that anxiety does not mean she cannot do big things. I so wish I'd learned this in HS, which would have helped me make decisions.

There are also workbooks on CBT that you can get on Amazon. There might also be life coaches for teens who focus on anxiety. I am a therapy proponent, but coaching is more forward-thinking and some benefit more from it. I had been in therapy for years, but it wasn't until I started learning and practicing CBT that it made a difference.

GL! [/quote]

Thank you. Her psych picture is pretty complicated, but she is receiving evidence-based care. I used "therapy" as short-hand for the specific treatments she is receiving. I was concerned people would focus on treating the anxiety rather than answering my question, which is how to approach the college search process when anxiety is a given.

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A couple of things: I think the question is off when you're not considering treatment as well. In CBT you would focus specifically on applying to college and your thoughts around it. You seem to be involved by saying she might not want a heavy course load. Has she said that? Or, are you projecting? In exposure therapy, she would take challenging course load if that's what she was afraid of. While I do believe that it's correct to say that anxiety is something you never get rid of, continually living your life through that filter will make you play small.

Also, kids mature A LOT from year to year in HS. My senior last year swore he was going to college only in a warm climate. This year he refused to apply to any of the schools he mentioned. She is just a freshman, give her time. You don't need to be focused on "factors to consider" at this point. She needs to be in the now, thinking of the future may certainly increase her anxiety.

You did not like my first answer, so you likely hate this one. But, I hope you will read it with an open mind and not put the added pressure on yourself right now, too.[/quote]

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