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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And bravo to that Security Officer for reporting it!
I honestly don't know why kids are reluctant to report it, except perhaps for fear of being accused of "tattling." 
My child is only in kindergarden, but I can see it happening, in small ways--some big kids took all her potato chips at soccer (after school--I think she was trying to share) and there's a small group of kids (a gang of 3) who pick on the kindergardeners, saying things like, "You're so small." My daughter IS small. I worry. The people in aftercare are aware of it, and have spoken to the kids, but I have no idea if it's pervasive or serious or just part of life. [/quote]

It goes beyond the fear of being labeled a tattler, though that term isnoutdated by mid elementary school.  The reason kids are afraid of reporting it is that they're afraid it will make things worse - bullying will continue, but in a more covert fashion and will become more severe. Kids are afraid of being ostracized by other kids. And Kids are afraid that the adults won't or can't do anything about it. If that's how a kid is feeling, no way are they going to report it.

While us adults are saying bring bullying out of the closet, I don't see kids jumping on this bandwagon. And adults are ambivalent too. [b]Look at OP who was angry that her husband reported it.[/b]
I am a PP whose child was seriously bullied in ES and had a few incidents in MS. The reaction to bullying varies so much based on who is in charge. If you have a school with strong leadership and a no nonsense policy on bullying, bullying will stop once it's reported. But, as my child experienced in ES, reporting was a worthless endeavor ecause no one did anything about it.

I heard that there is a new benchmark that schools are being evaluated on regarding bullying. My understanding of it is weak, but it has a component of student perception about whether bullying is a problem in their school and whether teachers are approachable about bullying incidents. If this is true, maybe we'll see some improvement.

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OP here.  For the record, I was not angry that DH reported the incident.  If anything, I was annoyed that he submitted the form without mentioning it to me.  [/quote]

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